• Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    Let’s put a dead queer woman back in the closet, because people that already hate her might still hate her. Oh boy, I can feel the acceptance, it’s totally different from all the homophobia I grew up with!

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      3 days ago

      Not wanting someone reduced down to just their sexuality is not shoving them back in the closet and I don’t appreciate the insinuation that I’m prejudiced for calling it out.

      • Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone
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        3 days ago

        You yourself are advocating for her sexuality not being mentioned at all! If you were trying to advocate for something else here, it absolutely doesn’t come across.

        Queer people are constantly erased in death, by prejudiced family and media. Reconsider supporting or saying anything resembling that, such as by going ‘oh no why did the headline of a queer news site have to mention she was queer??’

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          I wasn’t advocating anything, I was explaining why the news media plastering her sexuality in every headline is an attempt to dehumanize her and send a message to those both inside and outside the mentioned minority. I apologize if it came across to you as queer erasure, that was definitely not what I was going for, but I do understand now how that’s how it could come across, so thank you for that.

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            Honestly thank you for being open to listening, I appreciate it especially since I came out the gate hot and sarcastic. It was coming from a place of reignited trauma, but it wasn’t good.

            I’m of an age and from a place where that erasure and silencing in the media happened literally, to queer people around me. That being a national problem was a huge part of why queer newspapers exist to begin with, so acting like they shouldn’t be highlighting her queerness just brings all that up at once. It’s scary to think about how we’re heading back in that direction in a lot of ways.