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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • My wife and I were trying to conceive and I was having issues with finishing. A lot was in my head… a lot was I was watching too much porn and masturbating so much I was low on sensitivity. Plus there was performance anxiety associated with the purposeful nature of the sex we were having.

    So, I stopped. It was tough. And I wasn’t 100% abstinent… but when I jerked, I didn’t watch pornography, and I only did it when I literally had blue balls. But I probably only jerked off two or 3 times in that whole amount of time.




  • Generally, I’d say anything they have personal taboo about that’s related to societal norms (assuming safe, sane, and consensual, and also assuming the agency to determine as such). Chances are that if there’s a taboo around it, it’s probably awesome.

    Specifically, everyone should try anal. Seems cliche to suggest, but anal play, at least among men, is heavily connected to ideas around sexuality. That, somehow, if you like your butt hole played with, you might be gay. Last I checked, you had to prefer playing with other dudes to be gay. And contrary to popular belief, not all gay men like anal… plus, there are myriad ways to stimulate your butt that don’t require another guy. Just because you like butt stuff doesn’t mean you like guys (as if that would even be a bad thing anyway).

    Generally speaking though, if society could let go of its puritanical views around sex and sexuality, people would be a lot happier. People should feel free to shove whatever they want, wherever they like, with whomever they choose, provided all the assumptions cited above.

    Edit: for the record… all women should try anal too. There’s no shortage of nerve endings down there for them… regardless of the presence or lack of a prostate.


  • Depends on the power level whether it hurts or not. Honestly, they’ve never really ever been “hooked up” on me. Never really had them stimulated during sex nor have I really bothered with it otherwise. But I love breasts and sucking and playing with other people’s nipples. So out of some jealousy and FOMO, I’m trying this out.

    Lower power levels might provide some tingles, higher ones feel line a strong pinch. I have found some research on using them to recover nipple sensation in mastectomy patients, so I think there’s something there.

    I’ve been casually doing it every few days like i said. Next I want to actively incorporate it into my sexual play so that I can begin psychological association of nipple play (estim or otherwise) with erotic activities… then I can hopefully make it to where they can be an active part of play.