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  • flying_sheep@lemmy.ml
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    22 days ago

    It’s gender-nonspecific.

    While I agree that using it while knowing the chosen pronouns of someone is a dick move, “they/them” is what you use when you don’t know.

    • JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      5 days ago

      I get gendered more when I wear a they/them pronoun lanyard, but had to add a she/they pin so people would stop apologizing for she’s.

      There’s no good answer that’s going to work for everyone, I just wish the world was kinder about speaking up for ourselves.

    • MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      22 days ago

      Yes, that’s true. There are situations where it can be a sign of respect, I agree.

      However, as a binary trans woman, it’ll never be that simple for me. If I get they/themmed by a stranger who doesn’t know, I spend the entire day worrying about what I did wrong in my presentation to not be simply referred to as “she” that time.

      This isn’t anyone’s fault. No one’s a mind-reader. And overall I think this practice is good, though not without some minor criticisms that probably aren’t worth mentioning since it would take an essay to unpack.

      • flying_sheep@lemmy.ml
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        21 days ago

        For me it means “not clearly someone who gets offended when I don’t use their assigned-at-birth pronouns”.

        I use it by default for anyone reading in any way leftist or alternative or queer or in any other way cool.